Veronica's Secret

I’ve been meaning to do this for a while as my own little experiment.

For an entire month, I’m actually going to stay on top of my advertising duties and keep track of how many inquiries I get off of each ad and which ones of those get turned into actual appointments.

I can already tell, one day into it, that Backpage is not for me (and the men who have called… all two of them haha… have told me the same thing, in not so nice words). It’s so “not for me,” that I think I may pull out of it before a month is up.

My challenge was to do an entire month posting my free ads on ECCIE and TER. A month of advertising on Eros. And a month of directory ads on Backpage. By the way… backpage is INSANELY expensive.

You know, I don’t understand how some people will happily advertise on Backpage and complain about how expensive Eros is. Yes, Eros *is* expensive, but BackPage is $150 more a month!

Oh well… I’ll report back in a month with my findings.

I’m back.

Or rather, I’m actually getting started *for real* in Dallas. I have to admit, I have been pretty much slacking in the advertising and promotion aspect of escorting for several years now— LONG before I even moved to Texas.

I just got off the phone with Eros Guide customer service and have an ad going up sometime today, so I suppose that means I’m officially working again.

So what does this mean? Well, for one, this means that I am going to have to start updating this blog with a bit more frequency. And I guess I should probably go on ahead and actually add the mobile version of my site too (lol).

I also need to schedule a photo shoot and give heavy consideration to actually getting a “Bat-phone” now (I’m leaning towards getting one right now).

So much to do!!

A couple of days ago, I had one of my wrestling sessions. From the moment I saw the client, I knew this was going to be a difficult session.

First off, he grossly misrepresented himself (more on that later).

Secondly, he came in with a very cocky attitude. Usually, with wrestling sessions, there is a certain amount of “smack talk” that goes back and forth, but he really was starting to take it too far.

Regardless, he was already there, so I went on ahead with the session. It was to be a submission match (meaning that each round continues until someone taps out).

Now about his misrepresentation: This man was a body builder. No two-ways about it. He said he was 5′8″ and he was closer to my height. He said it was 165lbs… BULLSHIT. He was as thick as me, but SOLID muscle. I sized him up after he changed into is wrestling gear and knew I was in over my head if I had to REALLY take him on.

I do two types of wrestling sessions: fantasy and semi-competitive. Fantasy is where my opponent doesn’t fight back at all. He will gladly position himself in ways where I can easily tackle him. He will take direction when I tell him to lie down so I can try out some different holds on him. Semi-competitive is where neither of us is really trying our hardest to win. It’s all about the actual wrestling itself and not about competition. The phrase “it’s not whether you win or lose, but how you play” pretty much sums up a semi-competitive session.

This guy said he wanted semi-competitive, but was playing competitively.

He easily won the first round (because I wasn’t prepared for how rough he was being). Though it took a bit of work on my end and it was a LONG round, I won the second round.

The third round, however, is when things started to take a turn for the ugly. We were pretty evenly matched (which came as a surprise to me considering this guy is a bodybuilder) but I was audibly struggling. Grunts and groans you expect to hear when someone is trying their hardest.

He tells me “Yeah that’s right… scream for me. I like to hear you struggle. I want you to know who’s in control here.” LOL WHAT!?

And a couple seconds later he “playfully” (as he says it… right.) slaps me across the face. So I tap out (my means of my fist to his face). He laughs and doesn’t get up. He says “I’m not counting that because you must call me MASTER first.”

………..

Are you f*#^&@! kidding me?!!?

As I’ve never had any type of session go so many types of wrong in such a short amount of time, I was really at a loss of words. Had I taken more time to think about it, I probably would have ended the session right then and told him to GTFO, but I didn’t.

Instead, I positioned myself in such a way where I couldn’t move a muscle— but neither could he. And I took great efforts to make sure I didn’t make a single sound as I did it.

Once in a position where he couldn’t move, no matter how hard he struggled (oh, and believe me… he struggled haha), I just sat there.

For the entire hour.

He tried and tried to get me to tap out… to change positions… anything. He even tried tickling me in an attempt to make me lose my cool (but I’m not ticklish lol).

Knowing that he would get satisfaction from my submitting (tapping out) and struggling, I refused to do either of these things and it was pissing him off. Eventually, I just couldn’t help myself, and I just laughed at the ridiculousness of it all.

I mean, here we were. Two people locked in a stalemate.

Boy did he get mad LOL! So I kept my eye on the clock and when an hour had finally passed, I said “Wow… look at that. An hour sure went by pretty fast. Sorry, but your time is up. I’ll be collecting my money now, and fell free to use the shower if you want to on your way out.”

LOL

Of course, he says “Oh well, I would have beaten you if the time hadn’t run out.”

I was like, “Dude… are you really that dense? I was going to keep you in that hold until the time ran out. You didn’t have me where you wanted me. It was just the opposite.”

Naturally, he didn’t believe me.

As a little exercise, I said “Tell ya what? To prove my point, for an extra $50, we’ll go one more round and I’d really show him who’s truly in control.”

He gladly accepted, as he wanted to break this “tie” that we had.

So we get into position to start. He lunges at me and I “fall” on my back. He’s on top of me, and before he puts me into a hold, I tap out.

I then stand up, collect my “tip” and showed him the door.

It’s no secret… I LOVE fetishes! Pretty much any fetish that doesn’t cross one of my hard limits (children/age play, animals, bodily fluids, causing ME pain), I like to hear about.

Sometimes I really wonder why some men have the fetishes they do. I mean, one doesn’t just wake up and decide, “You know what will get me off? If I could watch a woman pour honey all over her feet!”

Many of the men I’ve asked say they don’t even know why they like some of the things they do.

Well, recently, I met a man who had a tickle fetish. Tickle fetishes rank up there as one of my favorite fetishes, behind foot/shoe fetish, stocking fetish, wrestling fetish. I mean, what’s NOT to like about tickling? You get to make a person laugh! And laugh… and laugh… and laugh. Tickle torture is like the perfect example of “too much of a good thing.” And while I’m tickling, I often find myself laughing as well. Laughter is infectious!

But anyway… this gentleman actually was able to pinpoint the source of his tickle fetish and I found it very interesting.

He says that when he first noticed girls, when he was a child, there was a girl that he liked, but was too shy to talk to. One day, during recess, he saw this girl on the playground, pinning a boy down and tickling him. He said the boy was laughing and looked like he was having fun, but he was kind of jealous of the attention he was getting from his crush and wished he was the one on the ground being tickled.

It was a rush… a feeling… he had never experienced before (what we, adults, now know as arousal) and he wanted to recapture that feeling. And he found that he recaptures it through being tickled… it brings him back to that day in the playground.

Of course, now, he knows a little more about the female anatomy (and we women know more about his), and the grown-up way of tickling is way more fun, so he’s expanded on that fantasy. But I am always fascinated by people’s fetishes and what causes them to manifest.

(This wasn’t intended to be an invite for all of you to tell me all about your fetishes, but if you want to, feel free haha. Like I said… I’m intrigued).

So, I was told a hilarious story today…

Someone decided they’re going to “tell on me” to the ECCIE mods about my blog post (a little further down this page) titled “ECCIE Sucks.”

Now… I find this particularly hilarious that this person thinks that the owners/moderators of ECCIE would be so concerned about the opinion of one little person that their collective feathers would get all ruffled over my little blog entry. I doubt they care lol.

Even funnier, to me, is that they think that entry was supposed to be a big secret (even though I wrote it using the same handle AND it is in my blog, which is linked to my site). Everything I said in that entry, I’ve already pretty much also said either via PM to moderators or in various threads on ECCIE. My annoyance with that site wasn’t exactly an earth-shattering secret (lol).

I use the term “was” because at this point, my stance has shifted from “dislike” to “total indifference.”

People ask me almost daily, “did you see such-and-such on ‘the board’ today?” To which my answer is always, “Eh…”

Then I click the link they send me, and my response is usually, “Eh” but with a shrug of the shoulders.

Thankfully, it’s gotten to the point now where people have all but stopped sending me links and trying to talk to me about the latest on “the board.”

All that to say, when someone threatens to “expose” my blog entry which “slanders” ECCIE, I think my response is pretty much the same as the admins’ will be.

“Eh.”

I recently saw a thread on ECCIE where a man was in search of a “real” Asian provider.

Apparently, he says, all the Asian providers listed on BackPage aren’t Asian at all, but Black “claiming” to be “Asian-mixed.”

Now, I can’t say that I haven’t noticed this trend of OBVIOUSLY African-American providers posting as “mixed.”

This is truly an American phenomenon because in the UK and in Japan, both places where I have taken “working vacations,” this was not a problem.

On one hand, I think to myself “shame on you!” to the provider. I mean she IS misrepresenting herself.

But on the other hand WHY even bother mentioning your ethnicity at all when you provide a clear picture of yourself. The men can look at the picture and decide for himself if he’s attracted to the provider in question.

EXCEPT I kind of see where the providers who do this are coming from.

I have witnessed, in having answered phones for a very reputable agency, that the clients in question are a little ridiculous when it comes to the subject of race.

Example: One lady, we’ll call her Sandy, applied to the agency. She was a gorgeous light-skinned black woman. She identifies as black. She’s clearly a black woman about the same shade of golden brown as Beyonce. The agency owner advertises her as being black. NO RESPONSES.

Sandy says “well, I’m kind of light… put me down as mixed.” Mind you, the same pictures are used. NO CHANGE in the pictures, ok? All of a sudden, the phone starts ringing. Not a WHOLE lot, but people call.

So as an experiment, the agency owner tells me that she’s now re-listed her ethnicity as “Latina” (lol). And OMG wouldn’t you know it… the phone starts ringing off the hook. NOTHING about the ad has changed except the word “black” to “latina.” It was clearly the same girl with the same pictures. Same name. UNBELIEVABLE!!

So at this point, I kind of start thinking, “I don’t blame these providers! You’re clearly the person in the picture. They see the person in the picture is you. They see EXACTLY who they’re getting. So if you say you’re one ethnicity and you’re another, the client shows up sees you and is happy, then what’s the problem if you had to lie about your ethnicity to get him to book the appointment (or even bother looking at your ad).” Personally, I consider any kind of fudging of the details wrong, but I think this is a little less grievous than say using old pictures, airbrushing pictures to take off 20lbs or using someone else’s pictures.

Then it gets even more complicated in terms of black ladies who can in NO way say they’re racially mixed, saying they’re actually from some “exotic” locale in order to drum up more business. Brazil seems to be popular (some even say “Brazillion” in their ads and get offended when men call speaking to them in Portuguese) and any Caribbean island or Hawaii is also a good choice for some reason. And yet… this works!!! It seems that anything aside from african-AMERICAN is alright to these clients.

This speaks VOLUMES about the small-mindedness (and general intelligence) of the American hobbyist, but truly the underlying reasoning behind this goes far deeper than I care to delve in this blog (although I might get into it in a later entry). I mean, if it’s the same girl, clearly, does it matter if she’s from Arizona or Argentina? lol

And it’s not just black women who do this too. I know of TWO completely caucasian… typical Heinz-57 American white girls who have listed themselves as “Persian” and another who claims “half-Japanese” (all 3 of these ladies have told me this is not truly the case) in order to drum up more business.

When certain types of hobbyists (the types I don’t see) are turned down for an appointment, instead of them asking “what about our communications made you decide that we are incompatible?” or “why did you come to his conclusion?” (which I would be glad to answer) The reaction is often something along the lines of the following:

“You’re not all that anyway.” Then why didn’t you contact someone who was? Funny how I was apparently “all that” before I decided not to see you.

“Glad I saved my money.” They turn it around to make it seem like THEY are actually refusing to see you. LOL.

“Plenty of others out there who would like my money. Sucks to be you.” Gee darn! Mister Congeniality over here thinks it’s my loss. He said it, so it must be true.

“I shouldn’t have to jump through all these hoops just to see a provider.” Try backpage then. I screen and it says so on every ad I have

And the best one yet:

“I don’t feel that I should have to be screened. I’m well-known on ECCIE. My handle should be all the screening you need. I’m the customer, you should make this process easier.” Sorry but you’re not “the customer” yet. And with that attitude, you won’t ever be.

It makes me giggle that some men think that because we’re “available,” that means that we’re available to everyone… under all circumstances… at all times.

That basically we all have no choice. They have money, so OBVIOUSLY we *have* to see them. And their little feelings get so hurt.

Sometimes these things can be avoided by simply reading the information out there about the provider.

If she says “I cater exclusively to cultured gentlemen,” then in an email, if your initial contact says, “Hay Ma, I can get wit you?” chances are, you’re getting binned.

If she says she requires “xxxxxx” for screening purposes and isn’t newbie friendly, if you contact with “I’m new and don’t have any screening info. Will you see me?” The answer is “no.” DUH

If the tone of your communication is cocky, most providers aren’t impressed by that. Personally, when I receive something like that, it goes straight to the bin.

All this to say the old adage of “the customer is always right” doesn’t apply in provider-land.

You’re not a customer until you walk through the door. If you want to be a customer, play by the rules the lady has set forth or move along.

I honestly didn’t think it was that hard, guys!

There was a thread recently on ECCIE discussing Erykah Badu’s latest video where she stripped down in the middle of downtown Dallas.

I was completely baffled at how everyone seemed to get on their moral high-horses about what is acceptable, against common decency and ILLEGAL (lol).

On an escort message board.

And… the best part is that it seems these people were making these comments with absolutely NO intended irony whatsoever.

As you know, if you’re here reading this, I am extremely tall.

I’m taller than most women. Hell, I’m taller than a LOT of me out there.

And like most people of my height, I’ve been accused (by haters, naturally) of being a tranny. LOL You know… despite years of reviews stating otherwise… some provider (who I DIDN’T KNOW AND NEVER SPOKE TO BEFORE) took it upon herself to write on the front page of her website that I was a “man transvestite.” HAHA

As other women of my stature know, it’s pretty much something you have to deal with when you’re unusually tall. No big deal.

Well, what cracks me up is that in spite of my almost cartoonishly proportioned hips and butt and the reviews that state otherwise, there was all this “speculation” back then about whether I actually have a Y chromosome.

AND YET, I just saw an ISO which featured two OBVIOUS TS Providers where someone asked if they had reviews. People chimed in with “no, but her pictures look really hot.” and “Oh, I talked to her on the phone… she sounds like a heavy smoker, but seems really nice.”

OH

MY

EFFING

GOD

REALLY GUYS!?!?!?!?!?!?!

I almost commented on the thread, but I decided against it. I thought, briefly, that maybe there was something about it in the “private” commentary, but I am almost certain there isn’t haha.

That really made my night

So periodically, I look over my site’s stats to see where traffic is coming from and how people are finding me so I can work on reaching my target audience better. It’s also pretty interesting what comes up:

The top referrer to my site surprises me.

It’s actually Punterlink (which is a primarily UK based site).

Number 2 is ECCIE’s forums (meaning people clicked my site link that’s in my signature).

Followed closely by 3, which is the links page on Carrie Hillcrest’s site.

Then TER, Bigdoggie, Datecheck, P411 all pulling in low numbers.

Granted, I’m not exactly actively advertising, but it’s still interesting to see where traffic is coming from.

Now when it comes to search engine terms that lead people to me, it seems like they pretty much know they’re looking FOR ME when they do a search.

Veronica Moore is the number one phrase (55%) that people who find my site type in.

Also Veronica Moore Blog, Veronica Moore Eros, Ebony Companion, and my favorite QQ (lol). QQ is a gaming term which basically means “quit your bitching” (it’s actually because the 2 Qs look like crying eyes. It’s often used in a sentence like “Why don’t you go QQ some more?” or “Less QQ, more pew-pew!” or “QQ much? Someone call the waaaah-mbulance.”)

Most clicked pages also surprised me. First is the blog (really? awesome!). Okay, the rest isn’t exactly surprising… Gallery, followed by Packages and then Content (lol).

And the funniest thing… that most visitors look at my site for 623 seconds. WHAT can someone be doing on here for 10 minutes? lol

All this to say, I think it’s very important for providers to take a look at their site statistics from time to time. It lets them know what is bringing the viewers in and what isn’t. It can also let people know where their advertising dollars/time is best spent (for instance, I have a banner on BigDoggie, and yet it brings me in SIGNIFICANTLY less traffic than, say a link from another provider’s site. BigDoggie, you’re dead to me!).

I think next month, I’m actually going to do some real advertising and then at the end of the month look at my stats again and see what works and what doesn’t and then report back!